A Chapter, Closed.

 Well, well, well, I’ve reappeared - for a second at least. 

It’s been a while since I last shared something with you all, in the same (approximate) time frame, Taylor Swift has released TWO albums - crazy, I know. It seems crazier than it really is, she’s just incredibly hardworking, and understandably, she’s had a whole year to do nothing, other than make music, so it makes perfect sense really. 


Speaking of ‘perfect sense’, it’s coming up to the one year anniversary of my blog. I started Perfectly Flawed on January 1st of 2020, full of optimism, excitement, but most importantly - a story to tell. A story that took some courage to bring to the surface, but even more courage to share it with the world, or my friends list on Facebook. Regardless, it’s out there, and it’s not only provided immense relief in my mind, but it has touched some of you in ways I never knew my writing was able to. 


In sharing my story with you all, I have learned so much about myself, and a lot about the lessons in which these stories truly held. It wasn’t until I was writing them out that I had realised they meant more than what they seemed. 


This platform for me to vent, moan, cry, shout, and pour my heart into has done so much for my wellbeing, and so much for my closure, in certain aspects of my life at least. 


2020. 


What a year it has truly been. 


Detrimental for many. 


Fatal to some. 


Challenging to all. 


Inspiring to others. 


If 2020 has taught me anything, it has taught me to not take tomorrow for granted. We all go to bed with the assumption we will get the blessing of another day, but this isn’t always the case for some. When our head hits that pillow, we can never be certain it will rise again. Hence, it’s more important than EVER to live your life the way you want. Today, I make a promise to my fucking self. I am promising myself to not give a single utter fuck about what anybody thinks about me, my choices, my style, my taste, my actions, MY LIFE. 


You and I were given this one opportunity to live, to experience, to truly understand what it’s like to be ALIVE, so why are we wasting it? 


That stops TODAY. 


I go back to my point. If 2020 has taught me anything, it’s taught me to LIVE MY LIFE, and to not take one single bit of it for granted, because nobody knows what tomorrow brings. NOBODY. 


2020 was a learning curve for us all, a chance to appreciate life again, or at least learn to love what we have, even more than we did in 2019. It’s taught us that value doesn’t exist in iPhones, diamond rings, or cars. True value exists in those that big you up, that surround you, that are there for you. True value exists in those you hold dearest to you. THOSE WHO LOVE YOU. Love is more valuable than any diamond on this earth, and 2020 has taught us to appreciate it, because when it’s gone, you can’t go down to the jewellers and ask for another chance to love somebody, or be loved. So do not take today, or tomorrow for granted. Go out there, make memories, do that thing you’ve been dying to do. But most importantly - hug more often, smile more often, tell those closest to you how much you love them, and dedicate your energy to LIVING more often, not just existing. 


That brings me to end of this post, and the end of 2020 (thankfully), and there’s no better way to see out my blog either. 


Sharing my story has been something I’ve always been too scared to do, because I never thought I had enough ‘trauma’ , or ‘lessons’ to share, but turns out, stories don’t need to be full of trauma in order to learn something, or share a lesson. Your story may not seem much to you, but it could be life changing for somebody scrounging the internet for hope. 


Hope. 


That’s what it all comes down to. Everything I write for, everything I write about. Hope exists everywhere, even in the darkest of situations. Whether you choose to seek hope or not, is down to you, but it’s important to feel everything, AND still have the strength to carry on, regardless of what obstacles are being launched towards you. God gave you legs, use them to jump over anything, and everything that stands in the way of you, and your happiness. Never stop until you’re content enough to smile, for real, no faking this time. 


Thank you to every single one of your for sticking with me this past year, and reading everything I had to say. 


Thank you to everyone who messaged me, or thanked me, or just told me what my words did for them, it truly means the absolute world to me that I could help somebody in need, or inspire somebody to do better. 


I’ve enjoyed sharing my thoughts, and all the emotions that came with it - believe me, there was a lot of those. 


I dedicate this post to my past self. He’d be amazed right now. 


Once again, thank you for being here on my journey with me. The support has been truly overwhelming. 


I look forward to the future, and who knows, maybe a book, or two might surface. 


Before I go, there’s one thing I want you to always remember, 


Life is never smooth-sailing, there’s no right way to do anything, we’re all learning at the same pace, we’re all figuring our shit out in the same way, but pretending to have it all together, even though we know it’s falling apart - but that’s OKAY. 


What we must do, together, is embrace every unique aspect of ourselves. Because, no matter how hard we try to live up to societies ‘expectations’, we’re all PERFECTLY FLAWED. 


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