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“Hopeless.” 

If you asked me how I felt right now, that would probably be my response. Well, it’s what I’d be thinking anyway, my outward response would obviously be “i’m fine”. Being the sociable beings that we are, I think were conditioned to hide how we truly feel, not only to avoid the question and worry, but more fearfully, to avoid the stigma of actually speaking out about how we truly feel. 

Well, I don’t know about you reading this, but I am so tired of pretending to be “fine”. What even is fine anymore? There’s no such thing, and we have to accept that not being okay, IS OKAY. We must come to terms with the fact that life will never be smooth sailing, nor will it always be a pleasant experience. You will grow, you will learn, you will have your heart break, you will fail exams, you will sometimes be your own biggest enemy, you will fall out with friends, fall out with family, you will lose the ones you love, and you will lose yourself more times than you can imagine. But from this imperfection and ‘failure’, comes the most pleasant part of life; lessons, experiences and wisdom. 

As I always say, we must go through the bad, to appreciate the good, whatever that may be. 

From an outside perspective, I really have got my shit together; I go to university; I have a job; I have a stable home; I have a group of loyal friends; I have a future, and with that, I should have hope right? Well, as I said, that’s what an OUTSIDE perspective shows. 

And from the outside, that is the image you will always see, because as humans, we’re also very good at living picture perfect lives, all thanks to social media hey? 

What I can tell you, is that from the INSIDE, things are NOT how they seem, they’re far from it, and I’m sure many of you can relate to that. But, it is OKAY. If we were to use social media to show everybody the not so good aspects of our life, people would be far less quick to judge one another, and would be far more appreciative of the fact that all of this bad in life, and the not so ‘perfect’ images, is actually more normal and frequent than we all make out. 

Lately, my life hasn’t quite been how I had pictured, especially with uni around the corner, I had more of an expectation of my reality, but this expectation wasn’t quite fulfilled. I’m disappointed that things aren’t amazing, but I’m also grateful that I still have plans to follow, and routes to take, despite the outcome that may follow; ultimately, it is still a direction to follow; a direction to work towards. 

I know I’m not the only one who isn’t quite happy with how their life may be right now, and I know I’m not the only one who may be losing that glimmer of hope, that they’ve held onto for so long. 

I know there are many of us that wake each day and try to make the day ahead be a great one. And, when this day doesn’t fulfil our expectations, we beat ourselves up and fall back into the dark hole that we tried so hard to climb out from. 

Let me reassure you, hope varies; it will grow, and it will shrink, but what’s most important is that this hope can, and will always be, present, no matter how hard you think it is to find or see.

The thing about hope, is that it can come from the most hopeless of situations too; especially when we need it most. 

Don’t worry if your life isn’t how you wanted it to be right now, there’s still time, there’s still a lot of hope for things to change, it won’t be as easy as you want it to be, but it will be possible. 

Be patient,

Be hopeful,

Take each day as it comes (the good and the bad), 

But most importantly, remember that despite how bad you feel, or how bad life may seem, or how unhappy you are, or how not okay you may feel, it is OKAY. It is more than okay to not be there yet, because it’s a journey, and it will take its time, but eventually, you’ll get there, and you’ll be thankful that you stuck around to admire the journey you took yourself on, to reach the person you dreamt of being. 

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